How to say no to your children

I recently received a press release with, caught my attention a title: “? There are child slaves working in the child’s Halloween candy” (press release from the nonprofit Green America, which is to provide a method to Find and give fair Trade chocolate)

I passed through it to editor Robert Lang, who jokingly replied that he could get this year alone buy treats out: “I’m sorry, baby no candy this year. I have to protect other children like you were forced to slave labor. I am sure you will understand. “

I began to think that maybe he was something right. If you can use as an excuse, every child asks what time?

Mom, can I have a new toy? No, dear, most toy Beca use is made in China. The Chinese toys containing lead paint and other harmful chemicals that can make you really sick.

Mom, can I have some new clothes? No, dear, most of the clothes are very few people working long hours in harsh environments wage manufacturing sweatshops.

Mom, can I go to Hannah Montana concert? No, my dear, because you just to her parents lining the pockets of brokers and who may have been taken away her childhood turn her into a money machine.

Too extreme? probably. This is not to say that these do not deny your child wants to buy a legitimate reason (of course, might be a stretch in a Hannah Montana). But, in all seriousness, there are other effective ways to say no to your children, and teach them valuable lessons.

Explain why you, the children can understand say no. In the pretext of slave labor may resonate with a 10-year-old, but it will not work in a 4-year-old. You’ll just get a supercilious, and then begged and more. This is why your response must be age appropriate – and simple. See Money Smart Kids columnist Janet Bodnar money lessons by age group. If you have small children, and to prevent the collapse of the store, set limits you go shopping, and tell them what the consequences are before the breach. “You can pick out a thing,” or “We’re just at the grocery store to get aSome things today, so please do not ask anything. “

” Yes, but you have to use your money. . “ children do not spend your money problems, however, if they pony up their own money, they might reverse their requests In addition, the children pay – or at least chip – they want teach them about things to choose a good lesson.

My 6 year old daughter has been collecting coins for many years, has accumulated a considerable amount of money for the children of her age. so when we go to New York City, we told her she could use her money to get what they want (as long as it could fit in a suitcase). As a result, she spent a lot of time in the store to decide what to give her, her maximum benefit . “how much money will I really play this? “She asked her to consider each project.

Encourage children to think about others. Then, when your children ask new clothes, ask them to begin to take stock of what they already have If they have exceeded a lot of their clothes, he took the opportunity to teach them to donate their old clothes to people in need. If your child wants a big birthday party, but you do not think they need all these gifts, encourage them to ask guests to bring money donated to charity or possibly in the evening (a book exchange so that everyone has a gift). or you can just write on the invitation, “no gifts”, and explain to your child some families may not have extra money in their gift budget.